Eyebrows... The Bane of My Existence

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Crazy. Granny. Clown. Freak. Ugly. Weird. Disgusting. Gross. Puke Worthy. Stupid. Fucked Up. Wrong. Bad. Strange. And of course, my personal favorite (eat my sarcasm), Retarded. 

These are just a few of the adjectives that I have heard and read about drawn on or, as I like to call them, created eyebrows. 

Many of us, for a variety of reasons are compelled to make our own eyebrows in whatever way we can. Some lose their brows due to illness, medical treatment, over plucking or waxing in their misspent youth. 

In my case, I lost my left eyebrow in an accident when I was a child. My doctor told my mother at the time that he didn't know if my brow would grow back. It did grow back but it grew back all kinds of wrong. For a long time I just ignored it, and my other brow, too. I figured why bother with them? They looked so different and so bad I just wanted to pretend that they didn't exist. 

I was in my thirties before I got tired of having what I perceived as ugly brows and decided to do something about it. I tried plucking them to a shape and to match somewhat. Nope. My left brow was just too mucked up. So, I tried plucking my left brow down to practically nothing and just shaping my right brow to suit me then I would create (draw on) the left brow. I looked as if I had the brows of two different people on my face. Nope.

I finally came to the conclusion that in order to have two halfway decent eyebrows that look as if they belong on the same face, I would have to pluck both down to practically nothing and build them from the ground up. Over time, I have experimented with various products and techniques. Stencils. Wax. Powder. Tinted brush on gel. Pencils. So very, very many pencils. After much trial and error and mad frustration, I have landed on a few products and a relatively easy routine that get the job done for me. 


My chosen tool for plucking my brows is my petite Tweezerman tweezers. Similar here

An eye shadow primer. My favorite is the Lorac Behind the Scenes Eye Primer but just about any will do. 

To create my brows I love the Anastasia Beverly Hills Brow Wiz Pencil. I use Taupe and Medium Brown (formerly Medium Ash). My Medium Brown pencil is a backup I had of the Medium Ash, the old packaging that would shed the printing. I'm so happy that they fixed that little problem. 


I create my brows before I put on any other makeup. I find that it is easier and my brows go on better and last longer if I start with clean skin with very little moisturizer and no primer or makeup. 

My tweezers are old but they still work perfectly. One of the best five dollar investments I have ever made. I use them to pluck my eyebrows just about completely away, leaving just a thin line of hairs in the front section. I have tried leaving various amounts of hairs and different shapes, this is the one that works.

After I have plucked, I apply eye primer to my brow areas and smooth it into the skin and let it dry down. 

Once that is done, I grab my Brow Wiz pencil in Taupe and I use the spoolie on one end to brush my brow hairs up and kind of into place. Then I start creating. I begin at the apex of my arch and sketch in the tail. Then I go to the front of the brow, determine where I want it to start and I begin, with light, short strokes to sketch on the main part of my brow. I start along the bottom line, working my way up, following the natural line of the hairs I do have until I hit the arch and connect the front and tail. Then I go back to the front, start filling in the middle then the top line. I refine my arch and the join and finish shaping and filling in the tail. I use Precision Tip Q-Tips to clean up, refine, even up. And finally, I use my Medium Brown pencil to sketch in "hairs" to make the brow look a little more filled in and "hair like" and not something I Sharpied onto my face. 

After I do all of that, I apply my makeup, working carefully around my brows. After I'm finished, if necessary, I touch up my brows with my pencil then run a little clear gel through them to set them and I'm done. Depending on how my day is going, the procedure takes me anywhere from five to fifteen minutes. If I'm in a tearing hurry I can just about guarantee that my brows are going to look like something that the cat dragged in and take way, way too long to do. 

I aim for brows that look as if they could live, naturally over each eye. I don't worry about getting them perfectly alike. Sisters, not twins works just fine for me. My brows never look exactly the same from day to day but I try to be as consistent as I possibly can. 


My eyebrows are far, far from perfect. They aren't "natural" or "on point." I would give anything to have natural, full brows that are easy to shape and would look fabulous in about a minute flat by just plucking a few stray hairs and running a little gel through them. You can't even imagine how much I would love that. Being forced to endure all of this ragle baggle just to have eyebrows is a time consuming pain in my ass. But it isn't in the cards for me. I just have to do the best I can. 

I hope that this post doesn't read too whiny or bitchy. This is a painful subject for me and this wasn't an easy post for me to write. But I kind of feel a little better for having done so. I hope that it will help others in a similar position. Maybe my how-to will be useful someone who doesn't have brows for their own reason and is struggling. If that is the case, this is all worth it. A thousand times over. 

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34 comments

  1. Allison @neversaydiebeautyMay 14, 2015 at 10:31 AM

    very pretty and polished looking! Coz of my bangs and the fact that I get my brows colored along with my hair, I don't bother, but maybe I should

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  2. I really like your brows - they look fab. I'm so sorry that you had to deal with all of that torment over the years. While we can all say that it has made us stronger, it does hurt. I have a friend that just couldn't grow good brow hair and when she finally did, it was so light - it was not visible and it was very sparse. When I had my eye liner tattooed, she came with me and her her brows done too. It helped her tremendously... but it's definitely an upkeep.

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  3. Your brows look on point, or fleek as the kids say. I think your post is a great read for anyone with brow issues, or who feels self conscious about their own brows.

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  4. Great post, Erika! Your brows look impeccable <3

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  5. I love your brows, and my favorite part of doing peoples makeup is doing their brows. I have a lot of clients who have never done their brows and are always excited to see the change hehe

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  6. wow! I had no idea that your brows are not natural. I think you are very good at creating natural looking brows :)

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  7. I am so sensitive to the "R" word having grown up close to my aunt with Down syndrome, I wish we could banish it. I think I most prefer fucked up, lol! I enjoy hearing how others do up their brows because I hate doing my brows, but greatly benefit learning how others are able to make theirs look good!

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  8. I love your brows! I didn't know you had been in an accident.

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  9. I used to hate my full brows, but now that they're in style I get compliments on them!

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  10. Brows get a sad rep these days because people over do them drag queen style. And yours are so feminine, soft and well drawn, I really like the less is more approach. I remember in the 90s it was pencil shaven, luckily I didn't partake but feel every decade has a different take on the brow game.

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  11. Good heavens, Girlfriend! Your brows are awesome!! I wish I had naturally perfect eyebrows, alas, I don't. And now that I am getting more white hairs, I can't keep plucking those suckers out!

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  12. I'd never know you had to do that much to get your eyebrows looking so good. It's noticeable to you but to your readers they don't look like a problem. I'm glad you found your solution.

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  13. Your eye brows def look good! I lost mine after I had the kids. It's apparently not just the hair on your head that falls out. I draw mine in too and it's a royal PITA. I wish tattoo-ing would look super natural... and I wish I trusted someone to do it right lol

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  14. Your brows always look amazing.

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  15. I think you have BBS - Beauty Blogger Syndrome. Looking at ourselves with a magnifying glass can sometimes make us see issues that no one else sees - I had NO idea you drew in your brows. They look great to me. And even if your brows aren't always on fleek, you know that YOU are, sistah. mmm-hmmm.

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  16. You are so sweet, Nidia. And thank you for your kind words.

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  17. Thank you. I lost a ton of hair after I had my son but my brows held fast. I wish that a tattoo could look natural and I could trust someone to do it... I'd go for it in a heartbeat.

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  18. Thank you so much. I am always hyper aware of my brows and they make me a little cray! LOL

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  19. You are too sweet. <3 Yeah... I have more than my fair share of the silvers invading my brows. I pluck them down so far that you can't tell, tho. You should see my roots, right now. Skunk stripe city! lol

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  20. I think that you're right, Norah. I see some pretty extreme brow looks in my travels. Especially on YouTube. :D I'm all for do what makes you happy... But I prefer a more natural, well groomed brow look, personally. ;)

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  21. Your brows are fabulous, lady. Seriously, I get extreme brow envy every time I visit your blog. :D

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  22. Thank you. :D Yep. Just one of those things. I survived. :D

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  23. I am sensitive to that word, as well. I used it in this context to convey sarcasm and to take a dig as assholes who like to use it as a slur. My elder sister is severely autistic, she requires expert around the clock care but she is such a precious, gentle and beautiful soul and the thought that anyone would or could use her or anyone who has a mental challenge as an insult makes me want to nuke the planet. If you misuse the word "retarded" in my presence, I. Will. Clock. You.


    I read and watch videos abut brows like a lunatic hoping to find the magic solution. So far, the method I use works best for me. Maybe science will invent a miracle insta perfect brow. lol

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  24. Thank you, sweetie! I love seeing that transformation, too. Brows, well groomed and prettily shaped make such a difference!

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  25. Thank you so much, Anastasia. :D

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  26. Thank you, Cindy! I hope that my little how to is helpful to anyone who struggles with their brows or needs to create them.

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  27. Thank you so very much for your kind words. <3 If I could find a tattoo artist who could create a true, hair like tattoo and arch them just they way I like and get the tone just right... I' would consider having them tattooed. But to have teeny-tiny hairs tattooed, one at a time... I shudder at the thought! lol

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  28. Thank you, Allison. We all need to do what is right for us! I am in no position to judge... Mama isn't a sashaying piece of pulkeratude, not by a long shot! lol ;)

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  29. I like them!!!! I am so pro brows- I feel undone without that last touch!

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  30. I honestly had no idea you drew on your brows. You've really perfected your technique and they look great! Also, I never thought to use shadow primer on my brows. I might try that! Thanks for linking up with us in the Best of the Blogosphere!

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